You know it and he knows you know it. I have no place to go, my family lives in Atlanta and I have no money saved. He only deletes txt he doesnt want me to see and it makes it hard for me to move past the whole cheating in the beginning. It almost seems to me like they quit making that model. 1. (He doesnt know I check his Google history search box from his iPhone from time to time.) He says he has never felt like a full MAN and the women made him temporarily feel like a full MAN. Men who cheat dont walk around with a sign saying Im having an affair they are often good, upstanding, respectable men who are missing something in their marriages. Its sad, I know. This is not a religious debate, and if you are considering replying with such, dont waste your time. Not thinking or caring about my medical condition or how it affects my son. Hi I have been dating with my boyfriend for about 3 years now. I am so confused and dont know what to do. He never admitted to anything other than hugging. We have 3 children and one on the way. Scientists are studying a cheating gene, which involves decreased levels of vasopressin. My husband went into treatment after being arrested for getting drunk and being abusive. I am so sorry youre going through this, and I wish he didnt cheat on you. My oldest is a teenager 11 and 6. He literally showed no remorse and to this day maintains that he did nothing wrong. My husband did the same sort of things to me and he was definitely cheating. Says alcohol was a factor in it all. hi : you said you have been together for 12 yrs girlfrnd and boyfriend, 12 yrs is too long, did he propose to get married to you? I wish this could be shown to all women considering having a relationship with a married man. The open and honest communication you and your husband are having now is awesome. Well nearly 2 years after trying to work things out with my husband and putting myself second to what he needs, i came home from work yesterday to find he has gone. I was shocked. Its destructive. So, I can only hope that my story is either consolation during your trying time or its food-for-thought during your careful consideration on staying married. My husband went to a concert out of town last night. Of course I got upset & he said that Im over reacting. Does he have some growing up to do? Jewelry, eating out, flight details!! Was never the same. Chrissy, anytime someone breaks our trust especially in marriage, its like a two by four hitting us in the trust zone. after a few times she didnt whant to do this anymore. The other day I did something wrong and snooped through his computer. There is definitely something or someone who is distracting him; distracting him enough to change his appearance and stop contacting you willfully. I confronted him with this and he got angry and defensive and claims I am paranoid and suspicious. The other odd thing is that your husband brought it up again the next day. His bestfriends are a group of cheater not all but most of them! Is he away from home and you do not know where he is? Has he been unfaithful? And if she knew he was doing things with me, then she would txt. I cant continue on in a married where I, me, myself, do ALL the work when he wont contribute anything but money to pay the bills. No hand holding no romance pretty much nothing!!! That is the only way to find a solution. But how could I catch him in the lying, if he blocks his phone all the time and it is with him all the time. He tries to put it back on me saying Im paranoid. He stop the cheating for 9 years until two years ago he had a 4 month relationship with a lady 10 years older than him who was paying for the hotel to have him. PLEASE HELP! When he leaves he doesnt come home for hours and when he does he smells like sex. Mabel i would be moving on with my life. Im afraid to leave because of what will happen next. I really resented the idea that she seemed to be placing herself of great importance and was really his Number One Girl and I was some kind of consolation prize. Unfortunately that need inside coupled with insecurity and weakness has created a flood of uncertainty in a good marriage or potential relationship. To learn more, read Sexual Anxiety, Personality Predictors of Infidelity, Study Says on the U of G website http://www.uoguelph.ca/news/2011/07/sexual_anxiety.html. Love yourself! You have to learn how to deal with the situation and find out FOR SURE if he is cheating or not. When You Have a Bad Gut Feeling About Your Marriage. He then told me he kissed her, put his hands up her shirt, and made out with her. One way to start is to casually broach the subject. May you talk to the right people, read the right books, and connect with the right sources of healing, courage, and strength. I asked him about that, he insist that not he send! they also all sound similar. But i cleaned the slate, never brought it up again and moved forward positively. Lately he has been talking to this girl via txt and i see him talking to her but i can never get ahold of his phone before he deleted their conversation. Hes not as interested in physical intimacy as he was before. He saw a conversation i had with on of my guy friends about smoking and took my phone away from me and told me i wasnt allowed to speak to him ever again or else he will take me to court to get custody of our child. WELL, HE IS MARRIED. I am still in shock as we never even had a fight. We combined two households and his stuff is everywhere and we are not going to buy a home anytime soon. It is on the other side of the fear of going through the imagined pain of splitting. ago Please get tested ASAP. I dont know what to do , im a stay at home mom of 3 young children, I need to make the right decision for me and for them. I normally trust him. I havent withdrawn the papers yet, but I dont want a divorce. Send him packing! Thinking that I had known everything now and maybe we could be stronger, I married him. Im just so very emotional and stressed, and pissed. Im not always rite and I know that.BUT THIS I DO NOT DESERVE!! But I still cant get it out of my mind that he is lieing about not having sex with her and got emotionally involved instead of being there for me. Husbands try to convince their wives that shes crazy for thinking hed have an emotional or physical affair which is so destructive to her self-esteem, self-confidence, and self-image. (Fast forward)We moved together to another place and it still didnt work. Despite the fact that I have been cheated on in a relationship, I myself have actually never cheat on the person I was involved with. We are in therapy just started but I am not sure that I can bear the pain of this deception and all. (you can see the explenation if you click on my nickname as well..). I tried to do that however; I found myself getting depressed, moody and becoming someone I refuse to be. Be very careful who you trust. my questions are, is he cheating or not? I THOUGHT HE REALLY CARED AND WAS INTERESTED IN ME. I caught him several times throughout the marriage and every time he begged me back and said it wouldnt ever happen again. How to love your partner, plus tips for healthy love relationships. He has said that he is one of the most loyal people I will ever find, and that he has never cheated on anyone before in his life because he isnt like that. We are always together and never like being apart. He then went on to tell her that he really enjoyed sex with her and that he missed it and wanted more. Ultimately, if you feel my husband acts like he thinks . I doubt he believes me because he said it was still recording but he did not know how to turn it off. Once cheater always cheater comes to mind. Take this quick quiz to see if he actually likes you! But now, today, I mentioned how, if he ever becomes single, Im snatching him up.. in a joking way. With just a few of your husbands basic details to get started, this tool can produce a wealth of information about his recent communications. You answered your own question. I dont know anything about you, your relationship with your sister, or your marriage. This girl was married but when we went out he was always at work. You say youll be OK and I believe youll be better than OK. You have connected with yourself, you are getting stronger and healthier every day. Is this true that you dont feel safe with him, that you dont trust him? I heard how much he had changed and wanted to plan a happy retirement and travel for the rest of time we had left. If he does it more then once leave his ass. Ok Im plum dumb founded at this point, so I couldnt ansrew. Look at his email address or his work email address as here you might see booking receipts for hotels or restaurants. I had no idea what to think. My husband and I have been married almost a year now. You will! The more they know you suspect or know the more they will try and hide it and the harder it will be for them to get caught! Try to be supportive of her and look for support for yourself elsewhere, or her confusion could rub off on you. check his phone log, his emails, text messages. We have been together 6. Stacey how did you put tracker on his phone without him knowing my husbands is password protected and they have to except thanks for the help pam. Thank you for being here it took alot of courage to open up and share the way you did. My prayer for all women who think their husbands are lying about cheating is for clarity, wisdom, and guidance. 6 Tips, When Your Life Feels Empty and Meaningless Without Love. I pray for strength and courage as you make decisions about your marriage. ! date but dont get married. Dear Amy: I believe that my 45-year-old husband is having a midlife crisis, abusing drugs, cheating or possibly all three. His untruths are more frequent. I am even pregnant, I have unpacked my bags because I cant stand going on a four days vacation with him knowing he just cheated on me. I think he thinks I will be mad if hes talking to girls, but I dont care if it isnt inappropriate, but I think hes been in bad relationships. Bottom line, you deserve better honey! Other than to say this: if youre unhappy in your marriage and your husband wont do anything to help improve the relationship, then you need to leave him. Good luck & be safe. Doesnt matter. Of course there are other hardships that come along with ending a relationship, but to stay where you arent respected or loved just seems outrageous to me. Jan, you are correct in a round about way. Sounds to me like you DO have proof and you are in denial. Let them make you a hot drink and pour your heart out. Youre too good for that man! Well she started posting things on her social media about if shes worth anything shes worth anything now, how she wants a movie date and other things which had me feeling like those were directed towards him. Science has shown that genetic redundancy produces problems in offspring. They never lived together, it was just a fraud. That day I kicked him out only to beg him to stay. I was frozen that whole night at the game, I know deep down that was her. What a douche! He ripped off his shirt, buttons flying everywhere and began to yell, and said Im sick of this. I asked if he is sick of me and he said yes. DO NOT be afraid to stand up for yourself or you may find yourself an old woman being cheated on and lied to and those are our golden years do not let him do you like that girlfrend :). He even told me I am nothing compared to her, that I suck in bed. So we figured me moving in with my brother would be a good in between until we could get a place (alone) together. I think my husband had an emotional affair online with a coworker. They won't take responsibility for their actions because it makes them feel as though they are out of control and vulnerable. I want to stay with him, but am afraid he did sleep with this woman. I was promised that this woukd happen, by him and the staff. Going through it was the worst experience, sleepness nights, fear, doubts- and four years later life is better but Trust is just not there anymore. One night out of bordom we decided to go out with some friends and a female friend was already to drunck and acting out. Im glad it helped you, and hope it helps others who might be in the same situation. So later also in workig hours he gets a text from his brother, I open it and its more pornographic videos. Well If he hasnt actually cheated yet, he is surely trying to! With this evidence to hand, youll be in a far better position to take the steps listed below. I dont buy the boss part, Im not a moron. We went to marriage counseling for 2 months, he started to believe in God, would pray together.but has since stopped. I feel like crap, and cannot believe he would have dont that, but it seems rather apparent. Because lately all he seams interested in is video games, porn, and what ever he wants to do. Prior to our move I found out he was having another affair with a coworker who was also scheduled to go to Atlanta. He said how can we do anything with her Dad and his friend there. None of those are an accuse, but a small chance that a therapist could help. Protecting the affair partner. Our relationship is amazing. You are worth more than that. I know something is up. We talked about it and it was made clear that it was due to other factors of the current living situation that had nothing to do with each other. He then sent her text messages that he deleted before I saw them. and leaves office at 5.20 to 5.40 somtimes early . If you had to give one up completely and forever, which would it be? All without an ounce of mean-spirited intent. I look great for my age and look much younger than most 55 year old women. Im brokenlosti bileve ,fell something is happeningcondom that i find he admitted that is hesI ask him did he sleep whit someone.He sad that he left that condom for a very long time in his working truck, so I can find and we can fight and divorce.Im in shockomg But in other hand I dont bilive what he sad 100%I never open his truck. Its definitely disturbing. I completely trusted him. Remember that its not your fault yes, your mom is in pain because her husband cheated on her. How to Let Go. A good open point of view helps to evaluate the thoughts and feelings of uncertainty in our own minds as women. He says he loves me, needs me, wants me but things just arent working. This technique is commonly referred to as: "buttering them up" What you can do is to take him out on a date to get him distracted. What do you think about talking to a therapist, just to sort through your issues? Instead, either ask them to come to you or pay for a cab. He never put me first. I want so much to believe me but that little voice tells me hes not being faithful to me. He won't try and rush you through this first stage of healing and reconciliation. I have experienced my partner being inappropriate with female colleagues. etc. This is why I commented on your post (experience). He gets angry, swears its a lie, and doesnt want to discuss it anymore. I cant deal with this.please help me. I am also having a hard time dropping the daily talks. Id love to chat with you privately if youre interested. my oldest daughters father cheated on me 5 times. My gut feeling says he should not do so. You are worth so much more than this!!! But what if your suspicions that your husband is having an affair are unfounded? Too much at stake. He always travelling, telling me he gonna go for work, but in the middle in the night he doesnt want to answer my call? I am in some desperate need of advice before I start ripping my hair out of my head. CHEATING!!!!!! I do not know if he regrets that decision (although I personally think he does at some level). It is a cautionary tale, dont get upset, or insecure over these things. i have aassumed he was messing around on me but anytime i would confrony him he would get very angry and upset tell me it was the way im thinking that i needed to trust him. We texted frequently enough. His lies are now eating him from the inside out. And I mean everything a person needs. In fact, he did lie to me here recently about where he told me he ways going and where he actually went. Definitions of different types of love, for couples and singles. In the meantimepay attention, do some research/ checking uppop into his work to take lunch to him or pop in just to say you missed him, theres all kind of spywear for phones and computers nowuse it. Please dont. The other women also sent several pictures of herself in sexy poses to him. I have done nothing to him ive never cheated on him never flirted with guys. This woman is 26. Wish I could give you a hug because thats a looooong time to keep that in your gut. We have been married for 17 years..August will be 18 years and our children are 16, 13 and 12. For instance, he says hes going to the gym but when you follow him you see him heading to another apartment instead. Yep men cheat no matter what. Hes had a cold, so I dont know if he was cleaning up or what. They do not speak to me and he doesnt introduce me to them. are you both in couselling course? I actually believed him whenever he blamed me for things that were truly his fault! It sounds like your father is an abusive man in a stressful situation, which is making him behave even worse than normal. But after 3 months I gave him another chance and because of some other personal things his mom asked me to live with them because I had no where else to go. That is why part of me wants to believe he's innocent. My husband have been cheating on me every since I married him. Get out. He still makes me feel like its my fault and that I dont need to know anything about it. I didnt trust him he left that work place and I told him if he didnt get me the girls number then I would call his ex boss and disclose everything to him. I am disabled living on SS with no money to spare and they steal my transportation. You do need some help!! but i have doubt like he is taking leave from office without my knowledge. Always. I know it feels like your world is ending .. back to the women who messaged you she wants your life she is jellouse . They just dont know what a fraud he is. My gut instinct tells me that if you have been suspecting your husband of cheating for the past 13 years, then he may very well be cheating. Come on though it is hard ot accept if theres someone texting with kisses and its NOT you its someone he finds that appropriate with, and he doesnt trust you to look on his phone now? Your current husband doesnt seem to care less who is by his side; as long as its someone- escort or you. The best 1st birthday present she received. So his lying is a defense mechanism, and he's perfected it over many years. I almost told him everything. I returned and didnt think anything until I saw a picture of a woman in my husbands gallery that was in an autosave file. Given my boy friend and i got together bsck in july 2010 and i got pregnant as soon as we got together. HE WILL COLLAPSE into regret eventually.I cant live without youblah, blah, blah dont fall for that either. And a big time feminist(b/c shes Up With Woman). This doesn't mean he doesn't like you. And I saw this girls name as my husbands guest. Which i know is a lie because she thought i was him. Just think about how happy well be in our happy little house. Shed found a rental in the neighborhood for him to move out into, 3 bedrooms so the boys could go back and forth. Since then they have both been very sneaky and then some I ask Him why this and why that then? I know love can withstand the test if time. I wish I would have realized that he was an insecure, selfish, narcissist before I had invested all of this time and made the prospect of leaving so complicated. You dont need to find evidence to make it 100% certifiable. He stopped paying the mortgage so the house is in foreclosure. 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